After much demolition it feels so satisfying to finally be building. I’m trying to involve the boys at every phase of construction so they are included, familiar and feel ownership of our home. We make frequent site visits so they can watch our house transform. I don’t want it to be foreign to them when we move back in. Some weeks we are there nearly daily, or at least we do a drive by viewing. It’s fun for us to investigate what has changed since we were last there. They enjoy discovering a new piece of construction equipment that has made a home on our property or finding a recent delivery of building materials.
We are very fortunate to have a contractor that welcomes our boys and really enjoys showing them around the site. He always remembers to text me when something cool is going on and reminds me to bring the boys by to check it out. On the day the foundation was poured, I brought the boys to see the concrete trucks. It’s hard to navigate the large equipment on our small property and they had to use a giant pump arm to get the concrete to the back of the house.
One idea I had to include the boys in the building process was for them to press their hands into the wet concrete. It would be a secret labeling of our home that only the four of us would know where to find. I wanted us to leave our marks in the concrete so that in the years to come their little hands would be imprinted on the foundation of our family home.
More than wanting a larger kitchen and new bath for our house, our renovation really is the building of a home for my sweet three boys (hubs included). It is making it not something we bought, but something we built. It is making it our own. There is something more than concrete and wood. There is a family. Sentimental and a wee bit dorky, I know, putting our names in that spot in the bottom of our home memorialized that our home, above all else, is built on love.
So it is finally happening! We are renovating our family home, a 1928 #tudor revival which we have owned for 4 1/2 years. You know how it goes – a request for a kitchen remodel turns into an addition – turns into we should replace all the mismatched windows – turns into a we should really do the bathrooms too – which leads to pulling out the radiators, refinishing the floors and repairing the stucco and plaster. So now we are basically doing the whole house. And just as a heads up for your future projects – when you hire a demo team, they don’t waste any time getting the job done. Not sure if destructive tendencies are a temperament requirement for their job, or maybe they are just efficient workers, but within an hour of their arrival there was not a room that was untouched.
A while back I was interviewed by the lovely ladies from Hey Mama. They have curated an inspirational bevy of creative, entrepreneurial mamas and I am so flattered to be included. After browsing through the profiles of the women on their site you will want to run out and start a business or a charity or invent something – I promise!
My boys and I did a fun photo shoot to accompany the little blurb. I am super lucky to call a talented stylist my friend so turned myself over to her. When she suggested a swimsuit you bet I had all the feelings and body-doubts. But then thought how I would want my boys to accept and feel confident about their looks and decided I should lead by example. So here you see my un-retouched mama body, flaws and all, enjoying time with her sweeties. I am grateful for a friend who, separate from my self-critical eye, sees what’s beautiful in me. That which I may overlook for focusing on flaws. We should all be lucky enough to see ourselves through the eyes of someone who loves us.
P.S. If you want to read my Hey Mama interview go here
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